Remove the sharp edges from your personality reactions

Somewhere along the line your personality taught himself that when others say or do something which does not strengthen him, then he is 'in danger'. Based on this label, strong reactions to everyday life experiences seem appropriate, however, it is likely that you have never realized the existence nor intensity of this aspect.

Your personality may label something as unpleasant or not nice after he has judged it - and yet are you also truly in danger? It is very likely that more often than not this is not the case. Help yourself to restore this perspective into your everyday life issues. This will make it easier for you to then focus on the process of judging itself and let go of your investment in it in favour of your inner Self, rather than loosing yourself in a reaction which seems so justified in order to bring yourself safety.

Yes, your personality is likely to label a traffic jam as 'not nice'. Yet this is normal, and a traffic jam is not created to be 'nice'. And you are not in danger either. You may face the risk that some unpleasantness may happen through verbal or non-verbal reactions when you arrive too late, this still does not mean that you are personally in any danger.

Another example: your personality labels it as 'not nice' when you are scolded at. This is normal, since scolding was not chosen by the personality of the other person to be 'nice'. And what is it that is in immediate danger here according to you?

Okay, one more: someone does something which according to your personality is not allowed, and he labels this as 'not nice'. But what is the real danger that you are facing which were to justify an intense reaction?

Be not deceived by the kind of reaction your personality chooses to react on this basic feeling: be it anger (which means he has the idea that he may change something) or fear (the assumption that he cannot change anything), they are both reactions-to.