Do you have to solve all your problems, become healty etc.

Look at the gift of awareness in the problem itself. That will help you to become aware of the patterns from your personality, and his judgments and standards about how things should be, his affection for certain things, his idea that your body is some funny part of you that miraculously seems to work or fail without your mind having anything to do with it, that you are the one who has to make sure that everything is going perfect, that you are the one who knows what is "wrong", "problem" etc. By making the disappearance of a symptom or a solution to a problem your goal to strive for, you make it an instrument of your personality, so that is not really much of a recommendation. Your goal is not: getting rid of symptoms. Your goal is awareness, and that is an ongoing process.

Illness, for example, can slow down your life in such a way that you are now able to experience and look at things that you did not take time for till then. It is also easier to take the (smaller) step from there to the experience of peace and quiet of your inner Self than from the intense turmoil that you were in normally.

You are not the problem or the symptom. When you are at the beginning of this period of time, it may seem to you like a huge wall that cannot be climbed. When you are in the middle of it you are likely to experience it as an annoying experience that is taking too long, but when you have moved through it and you look back, then you will see that all it was was a gentle step forward towards more awareness of your inner Self in which you have let go of quite some old, limiting convictions.

And whether the symptoms or the problem remain or disappear, that is no longer really interesting then. There comes a time when they no longer serve this process of growth, and then it is not likely that they are very prominent in your awareness. Do not expect miracle healings when you are ill. These things do happen of course, but the lesson that it contains is so intense, that it may well be too much for you and only induce fear. Trust the wisdom of your inner Self in this. There is so much more that you can take from such a situation. But there will come a time that you have accepted it all as neutral in itself, you have learned the lessons, and you now move on with new things in which these symptoms or problems no longer are a real issue, whether they are bodily issues or appear within relations or circumstances.

I myself have had a series of unpleasant experiences for about one and a half year, involving youngsters around our house. During that time it gave me a tremendous amount of learning experiences, that I of course did not like during that time. On the moment, one New Year's eve, where I really surrendered and said to myself: I let it go, and I do not want to offer anything but unconditional love, whatever happens (and really meant that), it was over. The problem simply disappeared. I have seen this happen more often in my own life, and also read and heard about it from others. When the lesson is learned, you will move on. But it sure took an intense process to come to that point where I understood the essence of the problem, and also that the constant availability of the symptoms was a reminder that I had not mastered the whole lesson there was to be learned, thus encouraging me to keep on searching for a real solution.