Stop being happy

A Dutch female comedian recently stated in an interview that what stood out for her in her process of moving through a burnout, was: stop being happy. This also gave her an immense amount of time which came available as a result of this.

This can be a convenient step along the road of remembering your Self entirely, since what is it that you do when you stop attempting to be happy? It is likely that your personality still judges, however, the result of this judgment now no longer gives rise to follow-up actions in order to attempt to have an unpleasant outcome be turned into a more desired one. So nice is nice, and unpleasant is unpleasant, period. In this way you decrease the activity of your personality considerably, since he now no longer has to ensure that everything ultimately becomes as nice as possible.

Look within yourself to all those standards and values you have adopted over time for yourself: you have to be good, nice, sweet, attractive, perfect, thin, successful, intelligent, the best, be right etc. Now imagine that you do nót have to be all this anymore. By the way, your personality is likely to come up with the judgment this would mean you turn your life into a mess, however, when you let go without replacing it with something else, the only thing that really happens is that you make more mental space available for your inner Self and this will be a much more pleasant experience. When you let go of something, there is no automatism which makes the opposite true instead. And when you no longer need a certain thing, you neither need the opposite.

Of course this usually is a process, and it often requires an intense experience like a burnout or likewise in order to set it in motion: your personality has so identified himself with his role, that he is not eager to let it go, and partial solutions like this one often turn into forcing him into a situation, since he does not choose this kind of behaviour for nothing. Already thinking about the possibility of looking at things this way alone will help you to move into this new direction. And it is certainly not impossible to remember all this within yourself without this kind of intense events, however, it usually requires perseverance and simply keep on going.