Dealing with stress and tension

You live in an era where change is law. Your today's knowledge and ideas will be outdated before you know it. Your vision on the world changes each day. You will grow through new ideas. What is extremely important to you today, is yesterdays' news tomorrow. And what you are working on now, may not even exist in this form next year.

It is likely that you have taught yourself to take yourself seriously, that your vision and opinion are important, and that in order to have a pleasant life, it is necessary that these aspects have to be fulfilled as much as possible by the people that surround you. And yet, there are billions of people in this world, each with their own personality, priorities and visions. It is simply guaranteed that these will not match with yours. When you get irritated by the loud music on the party of your neighbors, you make yourself forget that there are 30 people over there who do enjoy it. So that means that there are at least two ways to look at the same situation. Why would your way be the one-and-only right way?

What remains unshaken in all this turbulence, is your inner Self. You do not have to do anything special to be reminded of that, simply become aware.

When a situation calls forth the least of tension within you, then no longer reason it away with arguments like: it is not allowed, you are being pitiful, it is not realistic. You do have these feelings, so you better use this constructively. Otherwise it is for sure that the next time you will experience the same feelings. Take responsibility for your feelings, they are yours, so you are the one who can deal with them, independent from other people.

Be consciously aware of the tension and stress that this situation calls forth in you: your thoughts and feelings. Do not resist them but move through them. And let the tension express itself as freely as possible (do make sure, however, that neither yourself nor anyone else gets hurt). Squashing, stress balls, jogging, grumping while your partner is instructed to not take you seriously, etc., are all fine ways to get rid of it. Do not hold it inside. Something that you hide or reason away, remains powerful because it sticks somewhere in your consciousness. It is through looking at it that you diminish the hold it had over you. Not only for this occasion, but it is likely to be less intense the next time a situation calls forth this kind of feelings.

As your personality is quite attached to maintaining a situation as he knows it, he could do with some stimulation to come into action and be prepared to make a change. For bringing about a change, some effort has to be made and energy spent, and the outcome is uncertain. But there are different ways to deal with this. The BE company relies on change through letting go and using the energy that is released in that process, rather than putting pressure on your personality or keeping his shaken and battered energy in line. Okay, the outcome may be less predictable. And it is for sure that it takes a lot of confidence in your inner Self and that of others to let go of this control. Maybe things do not even go as fast as your personality would have liked, but still, they will go at a pace that comes natural to you. And why is this deadline of yours a guarantee that everything will be perfect at that moment in time?

You may want to apply this for instance on a small activity or project. Maybe as simple as your private planning for the next weekend. Let go of all your expectations on how it should be. Be aware of the reactions in yourself and others when you release this. And be consciously aware of your own thought patterns and feelings, without strengthening them.