Success - more about it

At first, your personality defines there is a thing called success, and determines the standards for it. To your personality, success is all about the idea of being in control and ruling the world. You need not be consciously aiming for success to still entertain standards for it (you have automatically adopted these during your life, by reading, examples from others, etc.). Often enough, though, you are actively heading for success: once your personality has established more or less conscious some standards for success, he will attempt to realize these in your life.

However, 'success' somehow does not seem to be able to bring what you expected from it in the first place. It turns out not to be a continuous state of Being, but only a brief moment during a process in which all kinds of things happen. And together with success, the idea of failure is introduced automatically, since your personality simply cannot control everyone and everything, and often enough cannot stop what seems to be a bad turn of events. Now this is not a thing your personality likes to admit, and you will notice that it may even be one of the hardest things to admit for him. Listen to people talking about their achievements and the many, many times where they cover up what they see as their failures with regard to their own or general standards.

When you are not successful, your personality will want you to believe that there is 'something' outside yourself what does not give you what you believe you are entitled to. For example, when you have established the number of visitors to your website to be a source for success, then success is: people who visit your site. This automatically implies that decreasing numbers of visitors means 'people who do not want to visit your site'. Now your personality wants you to overlook that he made the definition for success for you in the first place and tried to establish this as a truth. Including the attempt to, however subtle, blame other people for what now has turned into your 'failure'.

Become aware of the standards for success your personality has adopted, and increase your understanding of the process as described here in this column. What really matters is what you use the process for that you find yourself in at any moment, and you can choose between: use it to strengthen either your personality or to remember your inner Self. And you will increasingly understand that in a process like this, 'successes' in themselves are not interesting at all.