Talking about it

An important source for the tensions you experience within your personality, are the interpretations he makes which do not lead to acceptable results, ánd which he cannot express directly or sufficiently towards the person he believes causes these. He now has to face a situation which he cannot, or not sufficiently, adjust to his liking. For example: an unpleasant order from your boss, someone who does not agree with you or attacks you, etc.

These interpretations from your personality cause tensions, which he now cannot express properly. Actually, your personality wants to express what he thinks of it all, what should happen according to his worldview, etc. Now the good part of this is, that he is not very concerned with whom he expresses this to. The only prerequisite is that the audience is open, or at least not against his ideas, and this can be any person at all. Someone who nods in an agreeing way, hums, supports him in his ideas that he is right after all, shares his anger and upset, etc. Usually, colleagues, friends and your family fulfill this role to you. You will not see this kind of letting off steam happen in situations or with people where your personality can expect serious disagreement. So it is a way for him to reestablish his feelings of strength and belief in himself without having to face unpleasant confrontations with other points of view. Now this can be easily recognized as a personality solution: nothing has really been solved, you still find yourself stuck with the basic problem of interpreting at all, leading to these unpleasant feelings, and the next time you will have to live through the same again.

There is nothing wrong in itself with talking about a situation. It is about under whose guidance you place it: personality (with the abovementioned results) or inner Self. Your inner Self can use talking about it as well if you like: if you only use it to let go off some steam. Preferably in a situation with people who are supportive through listening only, without agreeing or disagreeing with you, and where you yourself have the intention to use it for that purpose only. Now the mental space which will become available to you when you have done so, can be used for remembering your inner Self better, and you have lessened the grip of the original interpretation system on you.