The nice aspects about giving and contacts with other people

Whenever you are nice to somebody, then this feeling originates from within you at first. So you yourself are having front row seats when experiencing your own kindness, as it passes through you to someone else. Same applies of course for experiences that you label as less pleasant, like when you offer distrust, irritation, anger and like feelings. So whatever it is that you want to feel, it starts within you yourself.

The best "experience" is that of your inner Self. To experience it you need not wait for the other person to decrease the amount of effort he or she puts in upholding his personality, no, you are having front row seats here as well, and you will remember and experience your inner Self as soon as you decide to do so.

It is quite common to believe that there is some form of interaction, and that others (and this includes situations and objects) can have an influence on your experiences. However, the only role that you can assign to someone else is this: do I let myself be distracted by you (or this) from whatever it is that I choose to experience. What power do you assign to other people and situations with regard to calling forth feelings within me. So it is about interpreting what it is that you think that you see, hear and feel, and the consequences that you assign to it (or not). Now this last aspect is definitely personality stuff, and seen from his point of view this can easily turn into an instrument to close his mind on other people and maintaining the lifestyle he prefers without too many influence from the outside world.

There is another way to look at this. When you choose to let yourself be inspired by your inner Self, then you will no longer stimulate the personality of the other person(s) involved. And as this enables the other person to no longer limit himself to his personality, he now has a choice as well to become more aware of other aspects in himself. Thus it is made into a present for both of you, whether the other person is consciously aware of it or not. You have disclosed for a moment the vicious circle in which you held each other prisoner.