Thoughts about death

The first thing that becomes absolutely clear to you when you see a dead body, is the difference between the body and the essence with which you had a relationship. You will immediately notice that the feelings that you had for this person are still present, despite the fact that the body of the deceased is no longer used to confirm the mutuality of these feelings.

Your personality will use this situation to make you believe that this means that the feelings that you had for this person, are now gone (or will disappear), and this makes death a very unpleasant situation. But is that so? Or is it so that only one of the visual sources to remember and express who you really are, one that in its own way reminded you so much of the true nature of your inner Self, is no longer available?

Yes, naturally this death means that you are now more on your own to remember this state of awareness again, without the reassuring confirmation that came so easily to you over the years. But assigning exclusiveness to the deceased as the one and only person capable of helping you to remember this, is a limitation of yourself and the other person.

The essence of the other person remains accessible in your memories. And that may help you with the comfortable idea that is was possible to experience this. The gift of the other person in his or her passing away, is the challenge for yourself to re-establish the beauty that you experienced in your relationship together (and by that know that it is possible) into new relationships and express it in new ways. That do not have to be exclusive relationships, love for children for example is not limited to one child only.

In this way, that what you two have established over the years, now is the basis for new contacts and inspiration. It will be different. Because you have evolved, you no longer have to start all over again. You know that it is there, and that it is accessible for you. You know where you tend to limit yourself within a relationship on experiencing these feelings. And now you can choose to make a difference. It will no longer be the trill of the new discovery, it will be the deep feeling of remembrance.