About wrong, undermining and rejection

Your personality sees himself as the author of your life and worldview. According to his ideas, he has not only made himself, he also made a personal image on how the world should be, which suits his ideas accordingly. As a general idea you can follow this rule: whatever gets the label 'good' after having been interpreted accordingly, your personality likes to assign to himself, and everything that results in an outcome which has to be seen as unpleasant or likewise, preferably is projected away onto others, who then get the label 'wrong', which means as much as: 'does not meet your image and 'therefore' has to adjust this'.

As the author of your own 'how to' edition, you also have to deal with people who - consciously or unconsciously - do not meet these. And since you have taught yourself to believe your rules as truths in themselves, you experience this as a direct attack on the authority with which you built your worldview when this is not honored. And your personality sees this as undermining, a non-acknowledgment of the worldview he so meticulously made, and therefore as a rejection of himself. The fact that it is likely that you only recognize the irritation part of this process, does not mean that these previous steps have not taken place, only that you have quite succesfully taught yourself not to be aware of them.

A practical example: someone scratches his head. In your personalities 'how to' edition it states that scratching should not be seen. So the other person now undermines the authority of your personality with regard to scratching, since this is not allowed like this, and the other person does it anyway. The result of an interpretation like this is at least a feeling of irritation. And a great solution for you to deal with it, is: blaming the other person. In this way, your worldview is not threatened and it is not likely that you find out that you yourself were the source of your unpleasant feelings.

You can easily find out how this works for you by mentally picturing situations like criticism, behaviour of children, the radio of your neighbors, meeting appointments etc.

A quite unknown aspect of this, is that your personality sees everything with regard to your inner Self as undermining of himself as well, since this is not mentioned in his 'how to' edition. This is part of the reason why becoming Aware usually is quite a tough process, especially in the beginning: you see your Self as something which undermines what you believe is 'you', and are likely to defend yourself against it after each experience you have with your inner Self.

This process happens frequently during the day, that is why it is likely that you have taught yourself to hide the process from your awareness as much as possible. Even though the true solution to all this is as simple as obvious: choose to stop being the author of your 'self' and wanting to uphold a personal worldview. Not by hiding or repressing, but through becoming aware of what it is that you are doing, and letting go. Your inner Self will automatically fill the mental space you thus make available, and this will bring you experiences which are múch more pleasant! You can do this in small, practical steps, each situation which you are prepared to use for becoming aware and let go because you want to remember your Self better, is one that counts.