Dealing with unpleasant situations

We almost seem to have forgotten these days how to deal with unpleasantness in our lives. When a situation does not have that big aura of success and control, there is a tendency to get depressed very quickly.

This is not really a surprise. Your personality is the king of control, he is the part in you that wants to make you believe that you can create your own life. You will therefore find him telling you and other people about all the great things he did or is going to do. Thus creating the image that he is the only "one" to create your life and that success should be the ultimate goal. This would be a very poor life indeed now wouldn't it.

Your personality cannot really score with "no fun". It is only when things get very unpleasant that he can use it to become a kind of victim to whom these things happen. His way to deal with things like this is by pushing it out of your awareness, not having to look at it, hold other people responsible, telling that "he will learn from this" etc.

Simply let this happen, because it's the normal way your personality will deal with situations, opposing it will only create tension. Become consciously aware, however, of the information he brings into your awareness and do not believe that it is true in itself. Remember that your life is more than a bunch of thoughts, judgments and labels that seem to create a world of their own. Each situation, unpleasant ones included, holds the opportunity to use it to increase the awareness of your inner Self (your personality likes to take credit for the pleasant ones). Remember that it is not wrong when you find yourself in an unpleasant situation only because it does not meet the rules your personality wants to apply to your life.

Allow yourself to become aware of your inner Self, it plays a part in your life too (even if you are not aware of it) and has it's own way of dealing with situations. One that will bring you lasting effects, because it does not depend on outer circumstances and judgments and values.