Valuable problems?

Now isn't it a valuable process in itself to face problems? Don't you miss some valuable personal growth in this way?

You might believe that whenever you approach a problem in a way as suggested here on the site, that you deny yourself a valuable chance for personal growth. "He came out a better, stronger person" is a well-known saying. It somehow seems a valued quality to wrestle with a problem, and look at it from all different points of view.

Now the question here is: what is it that you want to become stronger during this process: your personality or your inner Self.

Should the valuable aspect be seen in your personality and its control over the events, then the answer to the question should be: my personality.

But you know that there is another way: through your inner Self. Living a situation and facing it through the eyes of your inner Self does not call forth controlling, reasoning or being in charge. There is a kind of knowing what to do and what not to do, and this is usually applied in a very smooth and easy manner. Now that does not mean that the outcome of all this is one that your personality would have chosen. But you will be at peace with the outcome, simply because of the way in which you came there.

Once you have experienced this, it is very likely that you will find this much more appealing than the ways of your personality. Thus the answer to the question should be: my inner Self.

Many people who have lived through an intensive learning process, mention the changes in their priorities in life. All kinds of things that used to bother them, are no longer important to them. Their perspective has changed. You hardly will hear a man who faces death from a fatal disease brag about his increased knowledge on his illness, rather about the change in awareness that it brought forth about himself, others and life itself.

During the process in which your inner Self deals with your issues, you are likely to notice a huge amount of comments from your personality. He wants to make you feel fearful, have you doubt, take away your courage and things like that. Your personality is losing control, and this is his normal way to deal with that. Simply face it without entertaining the thoughts, it does not have any power in itself. Do not strengthen it, neither judge yourself for it, it is what personalities do. Then bring back your awareness to your inner Self. Your personality may for example try to convince you that life will become very boring when you continue this way. Now what he makes you forget for his own sake, is that the mental space that he leaves open does not remain unused, it will be filled by your personality which is now allowed more and more prominent awareness. It will be so attractive to you, that there will come a moment that you do not want anything else but that.