Wrong or mistaken

Everybody makes mistakes every now and then. But what does it really mean, do something wrong? You can only do something wrong when there is something to judge it against. So it starts with that original value. If you did not have that original interpretation of right and wrong, you could not do anything wrong. And where do values come from? Indeed, they originate from the world of personalities.

Someone who makes a mistake, is "wrong" by definition. He or she is now in a vulnerable position, as it may be expected that someone will make this judgment and even confront you with it, thus making it extra real. The one who decides that this is wrong, also has the possibility to accompany that with some form of punishment (even if it only consists of him or her feeling better than te person who made the mistake), which makes this whole error-thing even more unpleasant.

It seems that there is something very wrong with you that you can fail to live up to some expectation, and the standard reaction should be: feeling guilty. Even if you do not immediately feel guilty, it is likely that there are enough people around you who will make it very clear to you that that is inappropriate behaviour. It is wrong, that is unavoidable, and you have to pay for that somehow, and by feeling guilty you plead guilty yourself. No wonder that from our early childhood on we try to hide our mistakes, because this is not a treatment to look forward to. And hiding errors costs a lot of energy and continuous alertness. A great job for your personality!

A modern variation on this theme is: making errors is all right, you will learn from that and grow. Now that is a pleasant way of saying that the values remain intact, that you are still able to violate them, but that you will not be punished severely for that. Judgment will still take place, but as long as you express some form of being sorry and your commitment to avoid it to prevent it from happening again, you are off the hook. You do not have to get all defensive now. Yeah, personalities are very creative!

But there is more: whenever there is more than one value, you are always wrong somehow. And there are only very few situations where there is only one value applicable. There are Christians and Muslims, Democrats and Conservatists, men and women, priests and thieves. So rest assured that there is always some way for your personality to feel threatened or insecure. His hidden motto is therefore: it is either wrong or a mistake. That is how his grip on your life remains tight, and at the same moment he generously presents himself as your savior from all this, the only one who knows how to get you through this minefield without getting hurt.

Your inner Self is not about values. It IS. And when you have forgotten to BE, then that is the only thing that really needs to be solved. Look at that what made you forget, and stop putting energy in it, thus enabling yourself to reclaim the space in your mind for remembering your inner Self. So the next time you find yourself in one of those endless situations of being judged by personalities, you know what to do: bring your attention inward, that is where your real solution can be found.